Last Thursday, I had the pleasure of attending the Women’s Council of Realtors (WCR) monthly meeting that featured a guest speaker name Catherine Garcia-Prats. Mrs. Prats is the mother of 10 sons ranging in age from 22-39. She has been married for 42 years and is the author of “Good Sons Don’t Just Happen and Good Families Just Don’t Happen.” Individually and as a couple they have spoken on family, marriage and parenting. Naturally, I was very intrigued to hear her story and to take some notes!
One important thing I took away from attending this meeting is something that took me awhile to understand and implement in my life. It’s very important not to get wrapped up in our daily activities that we forget about our self and allow essential time to just breathe and relax. I choose to work out in my free time. I had to learn the hard way and was giving all my attention to my kids, work, family etc. I simply burned myself out.
As a mother, we all go through similar things and ask ourselves the same questions. I can’t find enough time in the day to get things done. Between doing laundry, paying the bills, prepping meals/lunches, running to the grocery store, cleaning the house, helping the kids with their homework before their after school activities, and transporting them to and from everywhere, we simply just run out of time. Did I make the right decisions that will best benefit my family? Am I doing enough? How can I get alone time with each child and meet their individual needs? Did I discipline them appropriately, because when I do I feel remorseful? When is the right time to carve out a day for myself without feeling guilty?
She told us to prioritize our days and time and focus on what’s important, spending quality time with the ones we love. I have learned that quality time with K3 is essential. Most days we are running around with sports and activities and I often forget to spend quality time with them. I started something new once the boys returned from spending the summer in San Diego. Every night, we sit down as a family and eat. Sad to say but even when I was married, we never did that. We would eat on the go a bite here and a bite there. Sitting down as family seemed like more of a hassle than anything. Now, instead of trying to organize their lunch, wash clothes, and clean up I sit down to simply enjoy the moment with K3. We take turns praying and what I am so excited about is their prayers have grown into more than, “thank you Jesus for this food, AMEN.” I get a chance to hear about their day at school or football practice and I tell them about mine. It’s exactly what we needed, a chance to feed our body, soul and mind.
I do not have all the answers, nor have I done everything right. Everyday I’m still figuring out what works for us. As their mother, my sole responsibility is to equip my boys with the emotional, physical, intellectual, and spiritual tools they need to be successful in this crazy world we live in.
I can’t wait to read Mrs. Prats book to get new ideas and implement them into my life. Thank you Catherine for being a positive role model for us women. To purchase a copy of her book please go to the following: Good Sons Don’t Just Happen